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Josh and I have been fighting off sickness all weekend. I'm well enough to go out and do stuff. Josh was coughing to the point of vomiting -- not stomach vomiting, y'understand, losing very little in the way of nutrients -- and his fever returned.
"You will go to the doctor tomorrow," I said.
"Yes," he said.
"Even if you feel better," I said.
"Yes," he said.
He took an aspirin, which helped the fever. He took cough drops, which helped the cough, and we ordered in egg drop wonton soup, which was also helpful.
But, now, Josh has decided that he will call the doctor, regardless of how he feels, only coming in if he is told to.
1. This is not what I told him. He always does this. He scares me when he is sick, promises yes, he will go to the doctor, then decides he is feeling better and doesn't. I am really sick of being told to take care of myself by the man I love when he will not reciprocate. I am sick at being given the message "I don't need to do what I say", particularly when it is a health matter.
2. Josh has shown a really bad habit in the past to leave details out. Details like vomiting.
3. The doctor and his gatekeeper apparatus are highly aggressive about the gate keeping. There is no way to reach the doctor after hours to leave a voice message except to call the emergency number which connects one to a live person who will take one -- and only one -- message. That message is: It is an emergency. Folks reading my f-locked posts have gotten an earful of my opinions on all of this based on past history.
Will he be all right? Very likely. But, I am not happy about this, and will be most unhappy if he does not get well quickly.
Mind, we could call our 24 hour nurseline. Josh does not want to do this.
"You will go to the doctor tomorrow," I said.
"Yes," he said.
"Even if you feel better," I said.
"Yes," he said.
He took an aspirin, which helped the fever. He took cough drops, which helped the cough, and we ordered in egg drop wonton soup, which was also helpful.
But, now, Josh has decided that he will call the doctor, regardless of how he feels, only coming in if he is told to.
1. This is not what I told him. He always does this. He scares me when he is sick, promises yes, he will go to the doctor, then decides he is feeling better and doesn't. I am really sick of being told to take care of myself by the man I love when he will not reciprocate. I am sick at being given the message "I don't need to do what I say", particularly when it is a health matter.
2. Josh has shown a really bad habit in the past to leave details out. Details like vomiting.
3. The doctor and his gatekeeper apparatus are highly aggressive about the gate keeping. There is no way to reach the doctor after hours to leave a voice message except to call the emergency number which connects one to a live person who will take one -- and only one -- message. That message is: It is an emergency. Folks reading my f-locked posts have gotten an earful of my opinions on all of this based on past history.
Will he be all right? Very likely. But, I am not happy about this, and will be most unhappy if he does not get well quickly.
Mind, we could call our 24 hour nurseline. Josh does not want to do this.